The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops asked Stacey and I to write a regular reflections for their marriage enrichment website, ForYourMarriage.org. We started writing posts for our “Happily Even After” blog on that site in 2010 and continue to offer monthly contributions there about sustaining our marriage and family life. Here are a few samples.
…As a parent, underneath all the day-to-day tasks of getting kids to and from practices and games and homework and dinner and laundry, my deepest desire is that we mark them with faith and hope and love. That usually has very little to do with what we say. It usually is something that is communicated and received by what we do — and, more fundamentally, how we do it. So what would happen if we paid attention to those invisible things we give away to our kids? And what if we began looking for ways to be marked by them, in turn?
…We had sloppy joes for dinner tonight, which is a specialty of mine if we need a quick dinner. And, as everyone knows, when you’re eating a sandwich, you need something crunchy to go along with it. Them’s the rules. I don’t make ‘em.
…We need to fight for that connection. It doesn’t come easy, it fades with time, it can easily get overlooked when there are other pressing duties. But nothing else works in family life if we’re not right with one another. The kids can smell discord between us, and life becomes a long slog of one dang thing after another. The leaven of communion transforms everything — it nourishes us to be for one another, not just with one another.